“Look me in the eyes and tell me you didn’t hurt your sister!” I’m sure any parent or anyone who remembers their childhood will recall statements like that. It seems that we use the eyes of a person as the window to the truth. When you give your speeches or presentations what truth does your audience get from your eyes? Unwittingly our eyes can undermine everything we are saying if you don’t make eye contact with individuals in the audience, or they furtively shift from side to side trying to look at everyone at once.
One of the worst pieces of advice I’ve ever heard is the one used to help a nervous speaker calm him or herself by avoiding eye contact with the audience by looking above their heads – thinking the audience won’t notice. I promise you they will and your credibility will suffer. When someone has avoided making eye contact with you – what was your opinion?
Need I say more!
This is the point, if you want the audience to listen to your message, and absorb what you are saying you need to pay them the courtesy of looking them in the eye. Your eyes will speak the truth if you control them and use them to help you drive your point’s home. What do your eyes tell the audience when you present?